Friends are for forever.That is what Phoebe thinks when she meets Dan through a friend at a party.They instantly hit off,he has a good kind heart.He is funny and very charismatic.She is charmed,she knows that all she needs and wants from him is friendship.At the party,no one can tell that they have just met,they are talking,sharing tidbits about their various lives.He says he works for an IT company in Nairobi,she is a pharmacist working in a government hospital outside Nairobi,with her own part time private practice in town.She has a kid from a previous relationship.He has a baby mama.He drives a Fielder,she drives an Impreza. Their banter continues over drinks,he is drinking vodka,dry.She is drinking gin and tonic.They hardly notice how time has flown,the friend who introduced them alerts them that its time to leave.They swap contacts and decide to keep in contact.
Two nights later the duo meet over dinner.Theirs is a fast growing friendship.They are both very intelligent people They agree on some things,they don’t on others,like religion and politics.They however get past that and form a very meaningful friendship.The next five months see the birth and growth of this platonic relationship.They hang out at every opportunity.They talk about everything,he knows her deepest secrets and she knows his.They run to each other when they have issues, their families have met.He gets along just fine with her siblings,her mother and even her son.She does too with his entire clan. Their kids are friends,they even have a play day,every Sunday afternoon which conveniently offers Dan and Phoebe a chance to hang out.Over time their differences are almost dissolved,he is even open to exploring her faith and she has become accommodative to his political views and opinions.They have a pretty awesome friendship,they are even closer with each other than with the friend who introduced them.
Fast forward six months later and things progressively change,they slowly begin falling out.All of a sudden she finds him boring,he finds her petty.He thinks she needs to learn how to let go of stuff,she thinks he needs to stop being a moron.They pick fights with each other from nothing to something.He hates her guts,she hates his non-willingness to commitment to anything His opinions on politics are suddenly too radical for her liking,her faith is blind and dumb for him.They start hanging out less,they hardly call or text each other because when they do,a fight erupts.They have become like an old married couple,fighting and bickering about everything and nothing.
She reminiscences about their good times and takes a step to restore this friendship.She still cares about him.They meet over lunch,they decide that they have been stupid and selfish and decide to give things a try,A month later their are back to where they were before the meeting.She can see the hate in his eyes,he can see the disgust in hers.
Their folks start noticing the disconnect but there is nothing they can do to help.Their pride,ego,needs and selfish ways come first to both of them.He blames her,and her him.Two people who started as the best friends have become each others worst enemies.
Which leads to my question,is it possible for a man and a woman to be just friends?