THE DIVIDE

Friends are for forever.That is what Phoebe thinks when she meets Dan through a friend at a party.They instantly hit off,he has a good kind heart.He is funny and very charismatic.She is charmed,she knows that  all she needs and wants from him is friendship.At the party,no one can tell that they have just met,they are talking,sharing tidbits about their various lives.He says he  works  for an IT company in Nairobi,she is a pharmacist  working in a government hospital outside Nairobi,with her own part time private practice in town.She has a kid from a previous relationship.He has a baby mama.He drives a Fielder,she drives an Impreza. Their banter continues over drinks,he is drinking vodka,dry.She is drinking  gin and tonic.They hardly notice how time has flown,the friend who introduced them alerts them that its time to leave.They swap contacts and decide to keep in contact.

Two nights later the duo meet over dinner.Theirs is a fast growing friendship.They are both very intelligent people They agree on some things,they don’t on others,like religion and politics.They however get past that and form a very meaningful friendship.The next five months see the birth and growth of this platonic relationship.They hang out at every opportunity.They talk about everything,he knows her deepest secrets and she knows his.They run to each other when they have issues, their  families have met.He gets along just  fine with her siblings,her mother and even her son.She does too with his entire clan. Their kids are friends,they even have a play day,every Sunday afternoon which conveniently offers Dan and Phoebe a chance to hang out.Over time their differences are almost dissolved,he is even open to exploring her faith and she has become accommodative to his political views and opinions.They have a pretty awesome friendship,they are even closer with each other than with the friend who introduced them.

Fast forward six months later and things progressively  change,they slowly begin falling out.All of a sudden she finds him boring,he finds her petty.He thinks she needs to learn how to let go of stuff,she thinks he needs to stop being a moron.They pick fights with each other from nothing to something.He hates her guts,she hates his non-willingness  to commitment to anything His opinions on politics are suddenly too radical for her liking,her faith is blind and dumb for him.They start hanging out less,they hardly call or text each other because when they do,a fight erupts.They have become like an old married couple,fighting  and bickering about everything and nothing.

She reminiscences about their good times and takes a step to restore this friendship.She still cares about him.They meet over lunch,they decide that they have been stupid and selfish and decide to give things a try,A month later their are back to where they were before the meeting.She can see the hate in his eyes,he can see the disgust in hers.

Their folks start noticing the disconnect but there is nothing they can do to help.Their pride,ego,needs and selfish ways come first to both of them.He blames her,and her him.Two people who started as the best friends have become each others worst enemies.

Which leads to my question,is it possible for a man and a woman to be just friends?

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Back To The Hustle

Six weeks ago,I was standing in the Health Admins office with my leave forms waiting for his signature.I was feeling like a kid who was  about to close school for a really long vacay. I was ecstatic, I was finally getting my hard earned and deserved break.I had everything planned out.I will tell you of the activities i had planned out and how many I  actually  got done.

1.Improve on my spirituality-I have had remarkable of success in this department and I can confidently say that am not at the same place  I was six weeks ago*making it sound like its five years ago*

2.Go GP Karting-After watching a few episodes of Formula one,i felt like i could do this.I asked around and found out that I could go to  Carnivore road off Langata Road. Racing Circuit, Nairobi.

 
3.Bowling-I now  realize  how super blonde this is,and before you rip me apart,i did not go for bowling at the village market.
 
4.Swimming-I don’t know how to swim and I was hoping I would at least learn how to,that conversation between me and one of my buds was ended when she agreed to first get me a swimsuit,Mwesh,hun am still waiting.
 5.Go for a nature walk at safari walk-Oh well,that walk lacked supporters even on Easter Monday! Yeah Chrissy,you never  got back to me.That is not something you can do alone.
 
6.Go to to Fourteen Falls-This had actually been planned last year at Karura Forest by my retarded friends and I,how those plans went no one can explain.We even had a designated driver.Maybe next time,part of the reason i need you Mr Van Goth to get well soon so that we can start planning all over again.
Those were some of the things I  had clearly outlined in my mental diary that had to be done before going back to work but,only one of them was actually accomplished.
Instead of them,I did other stuff,I watched a tonne of movies,reality shows,series and read three books.I listened to all the music that was just just sitting there two albums by Florence and the machine,Flyleaf,Straind,Paramore and Mumford and sons,I actually enjoyed this music,a very smart friend of mine who says stuff like see you later alligator while texting had told me that I was only going through a phase music wise,my dear,i am in love with this and other bands.I cooked,cleaned tried new recipes,had friends over, watched The Kethi Kilonzo show stayed up late watching my movies  and even went to a wedding.
I might not have had a chance to do all the things i wanted to do,but I got the rest I needed.I am back and ready to go nonstop for the next six months!
 And am back,keep reading people!Oh and for some advice,while on leave be a miser with your money,you get broke fast!